You’ve just found out you’re pregnant, and your mind is probably racing with questions. One of them might be how you’re going to tell your partner.

Deciding to tell your partner can be a scary first step, but there are things you can do to help the conversation go smoothly and ensure your safety in the process.

Why Am I Concerned About How They’ll React?

First, you’ll want to consider why you’re fearful of how they’ll react. Are you nervous about their reaction, or are you concerned for your safety? If you’re worried about protecting yourself, consider making a plan so that you can be prepared for possible reactions. Reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE to access professional support, and think about reaching out to someone you can confide in. 

Ask them if they can be present when you tell the partner your news. This will give you an added layer of protection. You should also tell your partner in a public place, which will help to mitigate any fallout from the conversation.

Remember, abuse of any kind is never okay, and it isn’t your fault. You deserve to feel safe, loved, and respected.

How Do I Tell My Partner?

First things first: this pregnancy is your news, and you aren’t obligated to tell your partner. But if you would like to, think about how they will react. Will they be upset? Disappointed? Prepare yourself for possible reactions.

Think about where you’d like to tell them. Would you feel more comfortable doing so in a public place, or would you prefer to tell them at your home? This is your decision, so it’s completely up to you.

When you do tell your partner, try to stay calm and be an active listener. Give them the space they need to process their emotions, and let them think about how they feel.

I’d Like More Help

If you’re interested in learning more about how you can tell your partner and navigate this difficult situation, reach out today to schedule an appointment. We’re here for you!