Becoming a mother or father is challenging. No one is ever fully prepared to be a parent, no matter their life stage. However, there are some steps you can take when faced with an unplanned pregnancy. One of the best things you can do is keep communication open between you and your partner.

Begin by verifying the pregnancy and talking with someone you can trust. If you don’t have a trusted friend, family member, or advisor, contact BsideU for Life. We have men on our team who will listen and support you. 

Has She Verified Her Pregnancy?

Sometimes, a missed period and a positive pregnancy test aren’t enough to verify if a woman is pregnant. A woman’s menstrual cycle can change for many reasons. She should take more than one pregnancy test because it is possible to get a false positive

Here are the steps you can take to prepare:

Step One – Suggest Visiting BsideU for Life Together

We have a variety of free medical services to assist you. Both of you can receive the care and counsel you need. We are here to help.

Step Two – Free Pregnancy Testing

Set up an appointment for free and confidential pregnancy testing with us. Over-the-counter pregnancy tests are reliable, but they have different sensitivity levels. The longer your partner waits to test, the more reliable the results will be.

Step Three – Ask About a Free Limited Ultrasound

You may be eligible for a free limited obstetrical ultrasound if the test is positive. An ultrasound tells you if the pregnancy is developing with a detectable heartbeat or if your partner has miscarried. 

Experts estimate one in four pregnancies ends in a miscarriage, and it is possible to get a positive pregnancy test even after a miscarriage. 

Ultrasound also tells you how far along she is in her pregnancy and if it is safely located in her uterus. All of this is vital information you both need.

Have You Discussed Your Options?

You need to take a closer look at all of your options. It’s vital to work as a team to determine your next steps. Set up an appointment at BsideU for Life for a free options consultation. You have three options:


Although we do not perform or refer for abortion, we can give you and your partner factual information about the different procedures, side effects to expect, and potential risks. 

Making an Adoption Plan

As the expectant parents or birth parents, you can select the potential adoptive parents and the future you want for your child. We cannot place your child for adoption, but we can offer referrals.


BsideU for Life and our local community offer many services to assist you if you choose to co-parent. From material items to education, we help you prepare to be a successful parent.

What Should I Do?

Your partner makes the final decision, but your opinion matters. Talk with her about your concerns and fears. Don’t pressure her to make one decision over another. 

You need to listen to her and walk this through together. Ultimately, you want to be able to look back and be proud that you took responsibility. 

She should never have to make this decision on her own. Contact us today and schedule an appointment to verify the pregnancy and discuss your options and concerns. We are here for you.